Thanks to Instagram’s virtual runway, it’s soooo easy to sit there and compare yourself to every girl you come across.
I can’t tell you how many hours I must have lost scrolling through my feed thinking “I wish I was as skinny as her”, “I wish I could afford that bag”, “I wish my hair was as thick as hers”, “I wish I lived in that country” etc etc… And I know I’m not the only one that’s guilty of it.
Working in fashion, one of the things I constantly find myself doing is likening my style to other girls. They can be complete strangers on Instagram or Pinterest, yet I’ll find myself gawking at their clothes and getting annoyed with myself for not dressing like that. Why don’t I think of wearing clashing prints like that? Where can I get a jacket just like that to drape over my shoulders (even though I live in the desert and a coat is the last thing I need to spend my money on)? Why is my stomach not that flat so I can wear crop tops? It’s so unhealthy and probably the only thing I don’t like about social media.
We, as women, are so hard on ourselves all the time, and I’m not sure how to stop doing it… I suppose the first step is admitting you have a problem (god, I sound like I’m in an AA meeting), and consciously trying to stop comparing yourself to others. I think the thing is to do is focus on your own positivities. Maybe you have a great job, a great boyfriend, a killer arse, the metabolism of a fire breathing dragon, great hair, nice eyes – the list is endless! Whether you believe it or not, you will always have something in your life that someone else wants.
Unfortunately, our insecurities can eat away at us, and I so admire girls who have confidence and don’t let this stuff get to them (if such girls do exist). I know this isn’t a usual blog topic of mine, but it’s definitely something I’ve felt like opening up about over the past few months.
Photos: Usamans Photography